I man got stuck on the roadThere’s nothing like old tales about a man stuck on the road to make you think about how your intentions manifest during social interactions and shape the way you connect:

  • The jack story: A man gets stuck on a rural road with a flat tire and no jack. He could see a glimmer of light from a farm up the road. He started walking toward the farm, talking to himself: “Suppose the farmer is home but he will not answer the door. Suppose he has a jack but he will not let me borrow it. Suppose he doesn’t like visitors.” The more he thought about it, the more upset he got. He finally got to the door and knocked. The farmer opened the door and the man yelled at the farmer: “Keep your stinking jack!” and stomps off.
  • The gas story: A man gets stuck on a rural road with no gas. After a while a farmer in an old truck rolls by and stops, picks up the man, takes him into town to the service station and then drives him back to his stranded vehicle. The man then offers the farmer $50 for his trouble. The farmer then says to the man: “Thank you, but no thank you. I took the time to help a stranger in need, and I have a pretty good feeling right now, and that feeling isn’t for sale.”

Did you notice that each traveler failed to connect with the farmer in their story?

Think about how a guarded intention can prevent you from making a connection with someone that can save the day. Think how a practical intent (such as a repayment) can prevent you from making a connection with someone that appreciates feelings more than money.

Now, think again how the intention to be grateful can shine on your social interactions. With a friendly howdy and a sincere smile you can find the true pleasure of establishing a new relationship.  With an honest thank you and a warm handshake you can more than settled a debt of gratitude. A simple thankful gesture can set your intention to deeply connect with someone near by or far away. Set your intention on the gratitude that builds happy ties and enjoy the best part of life, close connections.

Gratitude is the intention